Book: You Can Win
Author: Shiv Kera
Genre: Non – Fiction – Self Help
Main Characters: None… Well.. Just You
Having read the book long back, I had wanted to re-read and own it. Now that I have it and have re-read it, I am wondering if it was worth “longish Longing” (!)
11 Chapters of the book with several short anecdotes elaborate 11 different aspects of personality development. Short and Crisp – more of “hints” developed into sentences. (Aside, This is going to be more of note making for self, with the whole book condensed. For a change, I am pushing over my laziness and going to type them off )
Chapter One: Attitude – see the problems with a positive note as potential benefits
Chapter Two: Building the positive attitude:
- Focus on positive thing
- Do it “Just now”
- Develop a habit of showing gratitude
- Continuous education
- Positive self esteem
- Stay away from negative influence
Action Points:
- Learn to like the things that need to be done
- Index card of these rules
- Re- read everyday for 21 days and follow them consciously
Chapter Three: Success
- Desire to be successful
- Commitment
- Responsibility
- Hard work
- Character (Value + Belief + Personality)
- Positive Beliefs
- Give more than you get
- Persistence
- Pride of Performance
- Be a willing student
Chapter Four: What is holding us back? 20 reasons for failure
- Unwillingness to take risk
- Lack of perseverance
- Instant Gratification
- Lack of priorities
- Short cuts
- Selfishness & greed
- Lack of conviction
- Lack of understanding the nature’s law
- Unwillingness to plan & prepare
- Rationalizing (finding excuses)
- Not learning from past msitakes
- Inability to recognize opportunity
- Fear
- Inability to use talent
- Lack of discipline
- Poor Self esteem
- Lack of knowledge
- Fatalistic attitude
- Lack of purpose
- Lack of courage
Chapter Five: Motivation – On internal & External Motivation
Chapter Six: Self esteem
- Do something for others who cannot repay in cask or kind
- Accept responsibility – take initiative
- Learn to give & receive compliments
Chapter Seven: Importance of interpersonal skills
“We see things not the way they are, but the way we are”
(Ok I know that look.. This was the only thing I felt special, even if known, in those whole chapter)
Chapter Eight: Steps to build a Positive personality
- Accept responsibility
- Show consideration
- Think win-win
- Choose your words carefully
- Dont criticize & Complain
- Smile & be Kind
- Put positive interpretation on other people’s behavior
- Be a good listener
- Be enthusiastic
- Give honest & sincere appreciation
- When you make a mistake, accept it and move on.
- Discuss but not argue (“Is it worth it” test)
- Dont gossip
- Turn promises to commitment
- Be grateful but do not expect gratitude
- Be dependable & practise loyalty
- Avoid bearing grudges
- Practise Honesty , Integrity & sincerity
- Practise Humility
- Be understanding & caring
- Practise courtesy on a daily basis
- Develop a sense of humor
- Dont be sarcastic & put others down
- To have a friend and be a friend
- Show empathy
Chapter Nine: Sub conscious mind & Habits
- Auto suggestion: Statement made in the present sense about the kind of person you want to be
- Importance of 21 days practice
- 21 days practice of reading
- Visualize
Chapter Ten: Goal setting – inline with values & ethics
Chapter Eleven:
Winning – an event
Winners – spirit
Bottom-line:
Before that, don’t judge me on giving you topics off the book, without much explanations. Maybe they are just the way it was in the book 🙁
Now to my views, As a book lover / reader, I dont feel this is even a proper piece of writing – seemed to me as more of points from various books fitted into one..
But as a person who looks for self books and enjoys reading them, I would feel it is a consolidation of “points to remember”. Again I never felt that “Aaha” moment anywhere.
Thanks Ram 🙂 Happy that you were able to post your comment:)
Why my test says success, i am surprised why i could not post it earlier. Anyways you and your special talents appreciated. You have made it very simple about this book which was not so earlier
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